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10 Tips to Encourage Better Dog Behaviour and Build Trust

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Does your dog only listen to you when they feel like it? Do you feel like they don't respect you?

Today's post has 10 tips to improve your relationship with your dog while maintaining (or improving) your role as top dog. Why? Because a stronger bond between the two of you will result in better behaviour and easier training on their part, producing a better family pet and reducing your stress levels.


I rescued a dog in 2022, and since then, I have been on a steep learning curve in training and doing my best for Anayah (you can read about her rescue story here!). She arrived with numerous behavioural issues and was filled with anxiety and energy that hadn't been given an outlet. While she may not be perfectly behaved yet, she has made incredible progress and learned so much. We both have. I will draw on my experiences of training and working with her as examples throughout the post.


Dogs are pack animals, and having been domesticated for many years, they now look to us for guidance and reassurance. They were bred to work for and with us, after all. Breeds developed for specific tasks, such as herding dogs (like the Border Collie) and gun dogs (such as the Labrador Retriever, Cocker Spaniel, and Springer Spaniel), are generally more inclined to seek direction from humans than guarding breeds (like the Doberman Pinscher), which were bred to work alongside humans, or those bred to work independently while guarding livestock (like the Pyrenean Mountain Dog). However, all dogs in a family home need to understand who the top dog is: you. If you have a spouse, family, or children, the dog's position in the pack is at the bottom.


Woman in gray hoodie stands on forest path with two dogs, one on a purple leash and the other in a red harness, looking up at her.
Anayah and Cookie are out for a walk with Mum and I.

I’m not suggesting that you need to be mean, cruel, or a bully (please don't do that); rather, it's essential to establish that you are the leader. A kind and loving leader, but a leader nonetheless. Being harsh with your pet can lead to fear, which may worsen their behaviour instead of improving it. Never hurt your dog and never yell at them, either. They do not have the intention of annoying you or destroying your favourite pair of slippers. Usually, there is a super easy explanation behind the behaviour, you just have to figure it out and work on it.



By enhancing the relationship between you and your dog, along with improving your status in their eyes, their level of respect for you will increase. This respect is crucial for achieving the behaviours you desire. Cuddles and belly scratches are super important too, obviously!


Always remember that all dog breeds have unique traits ingrained in their genetics, which can make certain behaviours more challenging to train out, if not impossible. This is why selecting the right dog breed for your lifestyle and situation is essential when you begin your journey.

Some behaviours to watch for that may indicate your dog does not see you as the leader include:

  • Your dog doesn’t consistently listen to your commands.

  • They show a lack of respect for established boundaries.

  • They steal food from counters or tables.

  • They pull on the lead and choose the route during walks, and may also display reactivity.

  • Their behaviour is inconsistent.

  • They chew or destroy furniture, shoes, etc.

  • They are constantly in your space, demanding attention or play.

  • They exhibit signs of anxiety.


These behaviours are likely connected to other behavioural or training issues, which you won't be able to identify and address until your dog understands that you are the one to look to and that they can trust you to guide them.

If your dog has suddenly changed behaviour, it's advisable to visit the vet first to rule out any underlying health issues.

Even if your dog doesn’t exhibit signs of questioning your role as their leader, it’s still beneficial to incorporate these practices into your routine if you haven’t already. Doing so will enhance your bond and reinforce your status as a leader. It certainly can't hurt, that’s for sure.


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1 . Set Boundaries, and stick to them.

Establishing clear rules for your dog is essential for a harmonious household. Everyone in your home should be aware of these rules to ensure consistency. For example, if Jasper the Jack Russell Terrier is not allowed on the sofa when you're present, but your kids let him up when you're away, he'll become confused by the mixed signals. This inconsistency can make it challenging for him to understand and follow the boundaries. It's best to set these rules as soon as your dog arrives home, but it's never too late to introduce them, as long as you remain consistent. Training an older dog may be more difficult since they might already have ingrained behaviours, so patience is key when reinforcing new rules.

Dog with alert ears eagerly looks at a bowl of kibble. The setting is a kitchen with a tiled floor and visible cabinet doors.
Anayah is only allowed in the kitchen when I say so.

Here are a few boundaries I've set for Anayah:

  • She is not allowed in the kitchen while I’m cooking.

  • She must stay out of the room when I’m vacuuming.

  • When I’m cleaning the rabbit area and they are free-roaming, she goes into her crate.

  • She can’t eat anything off the floor without permission, both inside and outside.

  • She is not allowed to jump on guests or people in the street (this is a new rule we’re still working on!).


If you want to prevent your dog from accessing certain areas, such as the sofa, bed, or specific parts of the garden, establish those boundaries and stick to them.

To train your dog on boundary commands, first decide on a specific command, such as "out," "crate," or "off."

To teach "out," define an invisible barrier, like a doorway or a change in flooring. This helps your dog recognize where they are allowed to go.

Keep your dog on a lead and walk toward the area you want to restrict. When their paws cross the invisible line, say a firm "No," Gently tug the lead to guide them back, and use your command word, "out." Praise them with a "Good dog!" Repeat this until they understand that they need to stay on their side of the line. With consistent practice, your dog will soon associate the command "out" with leaving the room. Anayah often anticipates the command and moves on her own before I even say it!


2 . Have a Solid Routine.

Dogs thrive on routine, which helps them feel secure and understand their environment. Even if your schedule varies during the week, maintaining a consistent routine can keep your dog on track. An unsettled environment may lead to anxiety or unpredictable behaviour in canines.

Try to feed your dog at the same time each day. When the clocks change in spring and autumn, don’t adjust your dog’s feeding time to match the new clock; it’s not their fault our schedules shift, and they shouldn’t have to adapt. While it’s not always possible to feed at the exact same time, aim to keep the feeding process as consistent as you can.

For instance, my routine with Anayah involves a morning walk as soon as I wake up. After our walk, she has breakfast and a dental chew while I tend to the rabbits. She then enjoys a snooze on the sofa while I have my breakfast and coffee before we head to work. During breaks, she gets a chance to sniff around and receive cuddles from my coworkers before returning to her crate. At lunch, I take her for a 20-minute walk or a run in the orchard. Once we’re home, we have some downtime before I feed her and the rabbits, followed by cooking my dinner.

I strive to keep her routine as consistent as possible, even when things change throughout the day or evening. When we travel, I do my best to maintain her routine to provide familiarity amid all the new experiences.

While it’s not necessary to follow the exact same walk or feed her at the exact same time every day, providing some stability is important. After all, you’ve welcomed a dog into your life, and offering them a sense of stability in our chaotic world is one of the best things you can do for their well-being!


3 . Exercise your dog enough.

Different dog breeds require varying amounts of physical exercise, and individual dogs can have even more specific needs based on factors like age, temperament, health conditions, and size.

For example, Border Collies, bred to assist shepherds in herding livestock, are among the most active breeds and need a minimum of 90 minutes of exercise daily, along with additional mental stimulation (more on that in the next section). In contrast, the English Bulldogs only require about 20 minutes of activity each day. It's essential to consider these differences when choosing a dog breed to ensure it aligns with your lifestyle. As a responsible owner, you must meet your dog's exercise needs.

I walk Anayah at least twice a day—once in the morning and again at lunch. If she has extra energy, we play fetch in the evening or go for a third gentle 'sniffari' walk, which I’ll explain shortly, or I take her to my mum's house where she and her best friend, Cookie, can have a play.

I cherish our walks because they keep me active and encourage me to spend time in nature, even on days when I might prefer to stay in. They clear my mind and contribute to my overall well-being.

That said, not all dogs need a daily walk if they get sufficient exercise at home or in the garden through activities like fetch. On particularly hot days when walking may be unsafe, mental stimulation can also be beneficial. However, regular walks are crucial! They provide exercise, socialization, and mental stimulation, and help desensitize your dog to various noises and distractions. Allowing your dog to interact with other dogs is an excellent way for them to exercise and should be part of their weekly routine for both mental and physical health.

A dog that doesn't receive enough physical activity may become restless, anxious, and even destructive. A good routine to adopt is to walk your dog at least once a day and, a couple of times a week, let them run in a secure field or dog park to get their aerobic exercise in.


4 . Provide plenty of mental stimulation.

Mental stimulation serves as exercise for your dog's brain, complementing their physical activity. Activities like agility training or other dog sports can provide both physical and mental stimulation, making them excellent choices for keeping your dog engaged.

Dog playing with a blue puzzle toy on a carpet. The setting is a cozy room with a sofa in the background. Mood is playful and curious.
Keeping their minds busy can be a challenge!

Mental stimulation is particularly crucial for dogs, especially those with working backgrounds.

These intelligent creatures thrive on mental challenges, and when their brains are underutilized, it can lead to behavioural issues both at home and in public. Dogs that experience boredom often exhibit destructive behaviours, become overly needy, or show signs of anxiety. Interestingly, some dogs may appear hyperactive even after a long walk. This often indicates that while their bodies may be tired, their minds are still in overdrive, needing an outlet for their energy.



It's a great way to bond with your dog, really learn what they are good at and pursue their passions.


Here are a few ideas to keep your dog's brain busy and engaged:


  • Snuffle Mats and Treat Dispensing Toys: These encourage your dog to use their sense of smell and problem-solving skills to find treats, providing both mental stimulation and a rewarding experience.

  • Food and Chew Enrichment: Items like pig ears, marrow bones, and yak chews not only satisfy your dog's chewing instincts but also keep them occupied for extended periods.

  • Sniffari Walks: Take your dog on a leisurely walk at a slower pace, allowing them to explore and sniff at their leisure. This type of walk is as mentally stimulating for dogs as watching the news is for us, providing a rich sensory experience.

  • Trick Training and Obedience: Teaching your dog new tricks or reinforcing obedience commands can be a fun and rewarding way to engage their minds while strengthening your bond.

  • Interactions with Other Dogs: Socializing with other dogs can provide mental challenges and help develop their communication skills.

For more detailed information on dog enrichment ideas, check out my blog post here!


5 . Train, Train, Train!

No, I don't mean the kind that goes choo choo and is used as transport!

If you want a well-behaved, loving family pet, training your canine companion is essential— and it requires commitment and consistency.

When we bring puppies home at 8 to 10 weeks old, we often expect them to seamlessly adapt to our way of life. We want them to understand our communication, follow our commands, and behave like the perfect family dog. However, without proper training and guidance, how can they learn everything we expect? After all, they can't simply visit a library to read up on how to be good companions for their humans.

From day one, whether you have a puppy or an adult dog, training is crucial. While teaching tricks can be a fun way to bond with your dog and stimulate their mind, tricks alone won’t install the behavioural foundation they need for everyday life. Anayah loves trick training, she gets so excited and loves to work her mind learning and practising new tricks! We are currently working on her jumping up onto my back when I'm crouched down.

It’s important to focus on practical skills such as walking nicely on a leash, socializing with other dogs, and coming when called. These essential commands help ensure your dog is well-mannered and safe in various situations. Setting boundaries is equally important. However, training can also be an opportunity to teach your dog some impressive skills, like picking up their toys, fetching a drink from the fridge, or even opening doors to let themselves outside for a bathroom break.

Remember, training takes time, but that time spent together is invaluable. It allows your dog to learn that you are the leader and reinforces the bond between you. As your dog sees you as a fun, trustworthy companion, they will be more eager to please you and make you happy. Through consistent training, you're not just teaching commands; you're building a strong, loving relationship that will last a lifetime, that's the goal, after all!

Person in a garden, wearing a beanie and black jacket, looking down at a dog sitting between their legs in middle. Owner has treat pouch, suggesting they are training. Overcast sky and green hills in background.
Anayah loves training, so we do it as much as we can

Be a responsible dog owner! If your dog struggles with recall, is untrustworthy, or isn't fully under your control when off-lead, it’s best to keep them on a lead in public spaces. There’s nothing more unsettling than being in a potentially dangerous situation with an uncontrolled dog.

Avoid shouting, "My dog is friendly, it's okay!" to another dog owner who is urgently calling for yours to be on a lead. They may be working with a reactive dog, training their pup, or simply not interested in socializing at that moment. Whatever the reason, it's essential to maintain control over your dog.


As someone who has a reactive dog in training, I can attest to how disruptive an off-lead, out-of-control dog can be. Such encounters can undo hours of hard work and training, leading to setbacks that are frustrating for both the owner and the dog. Please, be considerate and keep your dog on a lead until you can control them by verbal cues only.


6. Play with your dog.

Improving the bond between you and your dog can be as simple and enjoyable as engaging in playful activities together. Playing fetch is a classic choice; simply toss a ball or a favourite toy and watch them joyfully chase after it. You can also let them chase you around the house or garden, which many dogs find exhilarating. This also teaches your dog a crucial life-saving thing. If your dog gets out onto the road and you run away from them, it might encourage them to follow you as they know this game, they've played it before and it's fun!

For those dogs that enjoy a more energetic interaction, rough play or play fighting can be fun, but it’s crucial to ensure that this is only done with adults and that your dog understands the importance of stopping when you say so. If the play ever becomes too intense or your dog seems to lose control, it’s best to stop the game and not play it again. If you don't feel confident that you can stop the behaviour should it arise with someone it shouldn't, it's best to avoid this.

Another engaging activity is to hide their toys or treats around the room and encourage them to find them. You can also play hide and seek with your dog, which can be even more fun if you involve children. For example, a fun game involves throwing a ball into the garden, and then quickly finding a hiding spot inside the house. When your dog returns, they must seek you out. If they seem puzzled, a gentle call can guide them, but often, they’ll instinctively begin their search.

While playing, it's essential to be mindful of behaviours you may inadvertently encourage. For instance, chasing your dog can create confusion; if they ever escape, they might think you’re initiating a game instead of a serious situation when you start running after them. They won't distinguish between playful chasing and a crucial moment that could save their lives should a road or cars be nearby.

Additionally, games like Tug of War should be approached with caution. If your dog isn’t clear on who is in charge, they may see it as a challenge to their authority, which can lead to misunderstandings and potentially dangerous situations. Establishing clear boundaries during playtime will help ensure that your interactions remain fun and safe for both of you. Your dog should be able to stop as soon as you command him to do so.

Incorporating these playful activities into your routine strengthens your relationship and keeps your dog mentally and physically stimulated.


7 . Maintain a regular grooming schedule.

As with many aspects of pet care, grooming needs can vary significantly from one dog to another. Some breeds require regular visits to a professional groomer to maintain their coats, while others may only need a weekly brushing session at home. Interestingly, even dogs with short hair benefit from grooming; all dogs require some form of regular attention, whether it's a quick run-through with a brush once a month or more frequent sessions.

It's essential to do your research to understand your dog's specific grooming requirements, including the tools you'll need.

Additionally, regular maintenance of their ears and keeping their claws trimmed is crucial for their overall health. If you're ever uncertain about grooming techniques, don’t hesitate to consult your veterinarian or a professional groomer—they can provide valuable guidance and tips.

Bathing is another important aspect of grooming. If your dog visits a professional groomer, they will typically handle baths as part of their service. However, if you choose to bathe your dog at home, remember that small dogs can often be bathed in a sink, while larger breeds may require a bathtub or even an outdoor space, depending on their size and temperament.

Regular grooming not only keeps your dog comfortable but also offers you the opportunity to inspect their skin for any health issues, such as new lumps, bumps, or unusual sensations. Moreover, grooming can be a wonderful bonding experience, reinforcing your role as a caring and attentive owner.

While grooming does take time, that time spent with your dog can strengthen your relationship. Many dogs may need some training to sit still during grooming and nail clipping, so patience and positive reinforcement are key.


8 . Stay current with vaccinations, parasite prevention, and veterinary checkups.

While maintaining a strong bond with your pet involves more than just addressing health concerns, it’s important to recognize that if your dog is in pain, uncomfortable, or suffering from an undiagnosed illness, it can strain your relationship. In such cases, your dog may exhibit unusual behaviours out of confusion or as a plea for help, which might be misinterpreted as naughtiness.

Staying proactive with your dog’s worm, flea, and tick prevention can significantly reduce the risk of infestations and related health issues. Additionally, vaccinating your dog against serious diseases not only provides peace of mind but can also save you from costly vet bills in the future. Regular check-ups are essential for identifying any potential health problems early on, ensuring your dog remains happy and healthy.

If you notice a sudden change in your dog’s behaviour without an obvious cause, it’s crucial to consult your vet before addressing the issue through training. After all, it’s challenging to improve your dog’s behaviour if there’s an underlying health concern that needs attention.


9 . Socialize your dog.

I cannot emphasize enough how life-changing socializing your dog can be—not just for you and your pet, but also for everyone you encounter in daily life. Dogs that bark at other dogs or people across the street can be challenging to manage, and some may react negatively to cars, lights, or other noises. In more severe cases, dogs can become stressed, anxious, or even aggressive, making interactions uncomfortable for all involved.

From the moment you bring your new dog home—whether a puppy or an adult—socialization should be a daily priority. This can be as simple as taking them on short car rides, parking near a dog park to let them watch and observe, or taking them for walks in new environments when they are old enough. Visiting places like garden centres or local cafes with dog-friendly patios can also provide valuable social experiences. The key is to expose your dog to a variety of settings, sounds, and people.

Never underestimate the importance of continuous socialization. Even if you believe your dog is the most well-adjusted fluff ball, there’s always room for growth. Seek out new experiences to challenge them further; ceasing to stimulate their minds can lead to regression in their behaviour.


Take your dog to new places. Coffee shops and garden centres are normally doggy-friendly!
Take your dog to new places. Coffee shops and garden centres are normally doggy-friendly!

Additionally, early and frequent interactions with other dogs are crucial. Many dogs may feel unsure about how to behave around their peers, and while certain breeds may be more prone to reactive behaviour, any dog can become reactive if given the opportunity.

Be a responsible dog owner. If you have a reactive, unsure, nervous or aggressive dog, keep them on a lead in public spaces. It is simply not worth the risk of someone getting injured and your dog being put down due to an incident that could have been avoided.

If you do have a reactive or aggressive dog, seek a professional trainer and/or behaviourist before it gets worse and lands you and your dog in trouble.


10 . Understand your dog's body language.

How many times have we heard about a child being bitten or even killed by a family dog at home? Or seen countless videos on social media that claim to be funny but actually showcase pets acting out against their humans? Unfortunately, far too many! Most of these incidents could be avoided with one simple thing: understanding your pet's body language. This applies to all animals, not just dogs!

As humans, when someone does something we don’t like, we speak up and set boundaries. If they cross that line again, we feel upset or angry. Dogs operate similarly, but since they can’t verbally express their feelings, they rely on body language and other signals that we, as dog owners, need to recognize. Everyone in the family needs to understand these signs, including kids, so they know when a dog has had enough of being touched or played with.

Relying on just one indicator can lead to misunderstandings. It’s crucial to consider the whole picture: tail position, ear movement, mouth expressions, and overall body language, along with the surrounding environment. Remember, you are your dog’s advocate!

Here are some key points to keep in mind:

Tail: A wagging tail usually means your dog is happy and excited, but a low, slow wag can indicate uncertainty. A high, stiff tail often signals that your pup is feeling protective or threatened, while a tail tucked between their legs is a clear sign of submission or fear.

Ears: Perked-up ears usually show curiosity or excitement. If they’re moving like radar dishes, your dog is likely picking up sounds and focusing on something else. Ears pinned back against the head can indicate fear, aggression, or nervousness.

Eyes: Soft, relaxed eyes indicate comfort, while alert eyes suggest excitement or focus. A hard stare might mean your dog is challenging you or simply gazing at you with love—you’ll often be able to tell the difference. However, if you see the whites of their eyes, that’s a big red flag signalling anxiety or fear.

Mouth: A relaxed dog may appear to be smiling, whether their mouth is open or closed. Yawning can indicate stress or a release of tension. Lip licking often points to discomfort, anxiety, or even aggression, while panting can mean they’re hot, trying to catch their breath, or feeling stressed.

Body: Dogs shake off water, but they also shake to release stress or adrenaline. A relaxed dog will have a loose body, while a stiff body indicates tension. Raised hackles (the hair along a dog’s back) can signal high adrenaline, whether from excitement or fear. While it’s often a sign of distress, some dogs raise their hackles when they’re playing and having fun! Lastly, a play bow is a clear invitation for fun and games.


By taking the time to understand these signs, you can create a safer and more harmonious environment for both your family and your furry friend. Remember, being aware of your dog's body language can help prevent misunderstandings and strengthen your bond.




I hope you found some helpful tips here and feel ready to enhance your relationship with your dog, which can lead to better behaviour both at home and outside. Building a strong bond takes time and patience, so don’t rush the process!

If you still notice behaviour issues after implementing these tips, it might be a good idea to consult a professional trainer. There could be underlying factors contributing to your dog's behaviour that need addressing. While these strategies won’t solve every problem, they will give you a solid foundation to understand why your dog might be misbehaving. Just keep in mind that doing these things once or twice won’t make a significant difference—you need to be consistent for your dog to truly grasp what you’re trying to communicate.

It’s important to establish that you are the leader in your dog’s life. Think of yourself as a kind and loving boss, guiding them with clear expectations and boundaries. And remember, never resort to punishment or negative reinforcement as a training method! Positive reinforcement and understanding are the keys to fostering a trusting and respectful relationship with your furry friend. With time and dedication, you can create a harmonious environment where both you and your dog thrive!




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